We found this great set of little paint bottles at Ikea, plus some nice paint brushes at a relatively cheap price, and we've been painting a lot. This is not a sponsored post... why do I keep saying that? haha. It all fits nicely into an icecream box and makes painting a lot less of a hassle.
We've been reading Usborne's My Very First Art Famous Paintings book... really great, by the way... and feeling like we need to develop our artsy sides a bit more.
We all picked our favorite painting in the book. Addie's was Portrait of Paul in Pierrot by Picasso:
I thought that was funny. Mine and my husband's was Milkmaid by Vermeer.
Photo by Made With Love Photography. Do contact Marta if you live in the Lisbon area. This is not intended to be unsolicited parenting advice. I just thought it would be fun to write down the things I have decided are worth doing with babies, since I've had to prioritize this second time around. What I mean by that is I know I don't have time for certain things with my kids.. crafting, going to baby classes, buying educational toys, etc. But there are some things I find are truly important and I try to fit in. Key word try, because I am usually trying to get us past the "survive" level. So in terms of baby, about 0-6 months, here are the things I've decided are essential.
1. Try to get him to sleep on Gina Ford's schedules. And I do mean LOOSELY. And without any stress at all about it. Just to push them toward a schedule and make sure they get enough sleep.
2. Nurse as often as seems to be needed. I have no idea what I'm doing, but about every two hours seems to work out well.
3. Do a little tummy time everyday. Even if it's just two minutes, even if he gets a little upset, even if he spits up a little. Strengthen those back muscles, baby!
4. Cut his nails while he's sleeping in my lap until he gets too old for that (starts waking up, about three months), then put him in front of Super Simple Songs videos on youtube and cut them like that. Still do that with Addie. Makes her look forward to it. Keeps them immobile.
5. Smile and talk to him up close everyday. Even if it's just a little bit also.
Do you have anything you find essential for doing with babies?
I loved this vídeo about a teacher in Israel who says,
"Teachers, headmasters, educators, your thoughts and the words that you use about a child will at some stage become the thoughts and words that the child thinks about himself."
This is exactly why the thought of putting Addie in a school here sends a chill up my spine. It's true, perhaps I just had bad experiences in Portuguese schools and I'm sure there are good teachers and (possibly?) good schools here. But I have yet to meet the Portuguese teacher who has this kind of "opposite" treatment with a problem child. Who tells him he is good and smart and well-behaved, and helps him become that way, instead of telling him the opposite and sometimes even verbally abusing him. Unfortunately, I'm not exaggerating. I've seen sad scenes with small children. And I've yet to see the school system here that promotes this kind of opposite treatment, instead of solidifying the stereotype the child already has. What bothers me most in schools here are the completely unnecessary meetings teachers have in every grade level where they "talk" about students. Past teachers tell new teachers about the students they will have, which ones are problematic, etc. When studies have shown that this kind of "passing on of information" only causes assumptions and stereotypes in teachers that influence how they treat their students. These meetings for me are pure crap-talking and totally non-Christian.
Anyway. This is also the kind of thinking I try to remind myself of as a mother and as my children's primary educator. The thoughts and words I use about them and also about the world will MOLD them. Huge responsibility. Reminds me of the other day when I said "what the heck?!" and Addie spend the rest of the evening yelling "what the heck?!" Luckily, she hasn't repeated anything worse yet.:P
...Photography by Made With Love Photography. If you live in the Lisbon area, please contact Marta for all your photography needs.
"Child rearing is not an easy task. It is a full-time job—a real job minus the quotation marks. Seven days a week, from morning to night, anyone who stays at home to take care of their children is constantly at work. As a job, it’s even been priced out at equating to a salary of $118,000. Weekends? Holidays? Sick days? Those go out the window as long as one’s child still needs care. It’s a job. Any woman, or man for that matter, who chooses to raise their children one-on-one and full-time should be proud and should be given the same respect as anyone who earns a paid salary."
"Of course, parenting goes well beyond a choice to stay at home or work, and one or the other does not guarantee better parenting. But research by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development and the National Center for Biotechnology Information shows that children who received one-on-one quality, loving care are less stressed and less aggressive than those raised in all-day day cares with larger caregiver-to-child ratios. Having a parent at home full time also teaches children to form healthy attachments and relationships, something that they carry on throughout their lives, as shown by the Center of the Social and Emotional Foundations for Early Learning. This isn’t to say that children without stay-at-home moms or dads are automatically doomed, but it’s one more reason why it’s not a ridiculous decision on the part of those who decide to stay home."
"True life satisfaction can be found in everyday moments—yes, even in going to bed at night, exhausted, knowing that you have put in a hard day of work raising your kids and have been paid in memories instead of paychecks."
