Friday, July 14, 2017

The value of meals

One of the (many) takeaways from our US trip for me was how important meals are. It might seem like a lot of work to cook everyday, to plan meals, to grocery shop, etc. It might seem easier to buy pre-made food, pick something up, eat out, etc. But, at least for me, it's a short-cut that gives terrible long-term results.

There are good things and bad things in every country I always say, both in the US and in Portugal. On our trip, I realized one good thing Portugal has is that it *still* (even though it's dwindling) places more value on meals. In the US it's more common to "grab a bite" as you keep working, to eat on the go or as you drive, to eat alone or in the romantic company of a computer or iPhone. Perhaps here in Portugal there is still more of a remnant of that Latin get-togetherness or open a bottle and make it a celebrational meal.

I liked taking two weeks off cooking and eating yummy things in the US. But it felt like HOME to come back, sit down to a salad and a homemade meal. I remember a Jaime Oliver TV show where he went to America to teach people to cook and I really liked what he said, which was something along the lines of, "The US and England are amazing countries, have done amazing things and have amazing cultures, but in some aspects have gone too fast and forgotten the basics: the basics of getting a few ingredients together and sitting down with friends for a meal."

So my "helpers" in the pictures aren't actually helpful, but the first thing I do every morning is cook, which will be our lunch and dinner. And I think that investment in time is important, even though it gets dishes dirty and cleaning up the kitchen is such a hassle, especially with impatient kids. But when us three sit down for lunch and then four at dinner with dad, and it's peaceful, and they are learning to eat by themselves, have manners and generally just enjoy mealtime as a family, it's priceless. There is a reason humans don't graze or get food dumped into a bowl at regular times like animals. It's a ritual. It's social. There's a reason Jesus was ALL ABOUT meals. He even TURNS INTO a meal. It's sacred.

Wednesday, July 05, 2017

DOCAT videos

I made a few videos on the subject of the social doctrine of the Church with a friend from college. They are coming out slowly and I've apparently missed two of them already. I post them here:



Tuesday, July 04, 2017

Article on Fatima

I wasn't able to go to Fatima for the 100th year anniversary, but I was able to interview two of my friends who went. Their answers really touched me and I'm sure you'll enjoy them also. 

Pope Francis Visits Fatima: An Interview With Two Pilgrims

Friday, June 30, 2017

Travel with kids

We got a lot of questions on our trip as a family, which made me think a lot about traveling with or without kids. Some people said, "Yes, they're a too young to remember this trip. But they can always see pictures."

I don't think the main point of traveling as a family is for the kids to remember their fabulous, kid-centered trip doing only things they loved or eating only things they liked. At least for us. Maybe some other kids have happier childhoods...! Although we always have them in mind obviously when we pick things to do and places to eat, I see them as more of tagging along. The trip had lots of fun parts for them, but the main fun part, I'm convinced, is us being together 24-7 and experiencing new things together.

There were also not fun parts, for them and for us. There was lots of waiting: in airports, in hotels, in restaurants, in stores, in lines. There were stressful situations in which my husband and I had to make difficult decisions: which hotel to stay at, how to get to and from the airport, etc. There was staying at other people's houses, there was not making noise in hotels, there was jetlag and illness. It would have been "easier" (in the short-run) to go without kids.

But not only would that not have made sense for us, we really felt it made us grow as a family. Davy and Addie came back different... more mature, more used to waiting in stores, more used to walking around holding onto the stroller, more used to ordering in restaurants. We came back knowing ourselves better, knowing each other better, having spent immense quality time together.

I don't totally agree with the modern view of travel that is simply for hedonistic pleasure. Or even simply to "see the world". Sometimes it's harder to open yourself up to people close to you and form true interpersonal communion than it is to go far away and see lots of things and meet lots of people superficially. In fact, I'm sure it's harder. That's why St. Teresa of Calcutta told people, "Go home and love your family."

Some travel might be for rest or pleasure (I'm thinking of babymoons, before a baby is born... totally want rest and pleasure there!). But mainly travel for me is adventure, with a purpose, and personal (to meet people or with people). It's like the Hobbit, traveling alongside his companions on a mission. It's hard, but it's totally worth it. And home is so much sweeter afterwards.

Monday, June 26, 2017

Portraits of Saints

I would just like to make sure you know about a shop on Etsy.com called Portraits of Saints.



I ordered a print for our godson and was so pleased to find so many saints, even more obscure ones.

The owner, Tracy, painted St. Adelaide for me, just a few months after I asked if she could. She didn't charge, she welcomes ideas for new saints to paint. Here is Saint Adelaide.  

St. Adelaide, Catholic Patron Saint #4303

PS This is not a sponsored post. Some things are too good not to share. I find these great gifts for children, grandchildren, nieces/nephews and godchildren!