Monday, July 31, 2017

Nurtured by Love by Suzuki

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I liked reading Shinichi Suzuki's book Nurtured by Love: The Classic Approach to Talent Education in general, but it wasn't life-changing. I liked the first half better than the second half, because I felt it got too much into general life philosophy and not so much music education. But the part about the earlier the better for educating kids, learning music like one learns a language, exposing them to classical music and helping them learn it from an early age was all great. I like the similarities I saw between Suzuki's and Maria Montessori's views on what she termed "the absorbant mind." They both saw that children 0-6 will absorb everything in their environment without descrimination.



Here are some of my favorite quotes:

"In my opinion the child who cannot do arithmetic is not below average in intelligence; it is the educational system that is wrong."

"For thirty years not I have been pleading with people to believe that all children can be well educated, and not to turn away those who drop behind in learning. I named my method Talent Education, and began an educational movement in which children dropping behind or struggling to get along are not turned away."

"According to Mr. Miyazawa, you must begin training a bird soon after birth. In the beginning you must have much perseverance, energy and patience."

"It is a frightening fact. By no means only words or music, but everything, good or bad, is absorbed."

"Talent is not inborn, it has to be created. If one knows this, he or she can be buoyed up with hope even though the road is one of hardship and distress. Exertion is always beneficial as long as one is aware that it is goal oriented."

"Here I only want you to remember one thing - repetition. After one has learned a thing, it should be thoroughly mastered by repeating it again and again."

"There is no limit to our shortcomings. Until we die, we should spare no time or effort in changing our weaknesses to merits. To do so can be pleasant and interesting."

"If we cannot be patient, but stop a project halfway through - then later start again, drop it, start again and so on - this kind of repetition will not bring good results."

"The motto of my alma mater, Nagoya Commercial Schooo, was 'First character, then ability.' These words were inscribed on a tablet that hung in the lecture hall. This principle has been a light to my path all my life and is written on my heart. Fine scholars, artists, businessmen, and politicians alike succeed in their fields only if they are fine men."

"The purpose of Talent Education is to train children, not to be professional musicians but to be fine musicians and to show high ability in any other field they enter."

"There has been no thorough research into how ability is acquired. The word education implies two concepts: to educe, which means to 'bring out, develop from latent or potential existence' (Concise Oxford Dictionary), as well as to instruct. But the emphasis in schools is only on the instruction aspect, and the real meaning of education is totally forgotten."

"'I should write a letter' - 'I should reply to a letter.' If you think so, write immediately. You are not doing anything at the time but just think you will wait and do it later. Even small tasks should not be neglected, but completed right away. It is very importante to be able to do this. People who get a lot done manage it becasue they have the ability to get each necessary thing done right there and then."

"If they have learned the wrong fa by hearing it five thousand times, on must make them listen to the right fa six thousand or seven thousand times. At first there are no results, but after hearing the right fa three thousand, then four thousand times, and when the number reaches five and six thousand times, the ability to produce a correct fa acquired by listening to it six thousand times begins to take precedence over the ability to produce the wrong fa that was acquired by listening only five thousand times."

"But I have found that the most important thing is 'memory talent education.' The ability to memorize is one of the most vital skills and must be deeply inculcated."

"Until the parent can play one piece, the child does not play at all. This principle is very important indeed, because although the parents may want him to do so, a three or four-year-old child has no desire to learn the violin. The idea is to get the child to say, 'I want to play too'."

"Practicing according to the correct method and practicing as much as possible is the way to acquire ability. If one is faithful to the principle, superiod skill develops without fail. If you compare a person who practices five minutes a day with one who practices three hours a day, the difference, even though they both practice daily, is enormous. Those who fail to practice sufficiently fail to acquire ability. Only the effort that is actually expended will bear results."

Saturday, July 29, 2017

St. Martha ora pro nobis

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Happy Feast of Saint Martha, patroness of this blog!

Bishop Barron says on his facebook and in his daily Gospel reflection:

Friends, today’s Gospel is the story of Martha and Mary. I’d like to offer fresh take on this famous little story. One of the principal marks of Jesus’ teaching and ministry is the overturning of social conventions. And one of the most striking and surprising of Jesus’ moves was a radical inclusion of women.

While this typically women’s work was going on, men would sit out in the main room of t
he residence and talk. If a prominent rabbi or Pharisee were present, the men would sit at his feet and listen to his words.

Now we can see why Mary’s attitude was so offensive to Martha and probably to everyone else in the room. Martha wasn’t simply mad that Mary was giving her more work to do; she was mad that Mary had the gall to assume the stance of a man, to take up her position in the men’s space.

In his response to Martha’s complaint, Jesus signals more than a preference for listening over acting; he invites a woman into full participation in the life of discipleship. “Mary has chosen the better part and it will not be taken from her.”

http://www.usccb.org/bible/readings/bible/john/11:19

Monday, July 24, 2017

It's about who I am, not what I do

When I get anxious and start to worry about our life, it's usually about Addie. Am I doing enough for her? Is she well-behaved enough? Am I too strict or too patient? Am I dedicating enough time to her or am I too busy cooking, cleaning and changing her brother's diapers (way too many poopy diapers a day!)?

I was sick these past weeks, and these doubts especially come to my mind as I feel less capable of going places and meeting people with her. Jennifer Fulwiler wrote a post a long time ago, which I can't find, in which she was suprised to find her kids actually missed her when she was gone for a while. She felt like she was contributing so little to their lives that a robot with a red wig on the couch occasionally yelling out "stop hitting your sister!" and throwing a snack at them would be the same.

Mostly, I am dealing with outside pressure about why Addie is three and not in preschool/daycare. So when these doubts come I think, would she be happier in preschool/daycare? But then I remember, it's not about what I do, it's about who I am. I'm her mother! There are millions of inspirational videos I've seen throughout the years where kids reveal the best day of their life was when their dad played catch with them. Or something simple when their parents just spent time with them. It's special that Addie gets to be with me, even if it's during laundry or grocery shopping. And it's so special that I get to be with her. That I really know what she wants, needs, likes. It's a fascinating time for our homelife, as she is getting to an age where I can include her in more things and she can start "helping" more. I love the days we don't have to go anywhere or do anything and can do things slowly and at her pace.

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

One

Davy turned one last week and he really does get cuter each day. His clumsy waddle, his constant baby talk gibberish, even his yelling that he does whenever he wants ANYTHING... which can get annoying, but just shows his hearty enthusiasm for life. I made him banana cake, and he greatly appreciated it. We actually had to say, no more cake!

This is a precious time in our life. For me, the birth/first months are hardest, then it gets progressively easier as you go along. A first year is a kind of milestone and relief for ME. It thrills me to see him more and more autonomous, participating more and more in our habits and routines and family life. And it's especially thrilling to see brother and sister start to interact more. FIGHT more over toys and such (yikes!), but also play and laugh and kiss.

Monday, July 17, 2017

Long and Happy Life by Delta Rae


"I was born to love you
Out where the water is wide
Make me your country bride
You'll be my prince of tides
You were born to heal me
Under a velvet sky
Cattails dancing in the light
We were born to live a long and happy life
A happy life"


How I feel about my hubbie. I wish we lived in the country!